Bye Bye Mexicanas, Bye Bye

Something happens on the inside as you get to know people over time. It is slow and imperceptible at times, but it happens. Along the journey these people become closer and closer to us. They are the people that mark our lives forever. They change us for having known them. They are our friends.

Today I write, saddened, but heartened. Saddened by the eventual, inevitable outcome of losing something so very precious. Heartened in the knowledge of just how much they enriched my life while they were here.

Who were they? Three amazing Mexican girls.

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Leticia, Breezy, Me, and Estela.

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Blog Name and Location Change

Well, since I started this blog, it was called “Samafas” for no other reason than it seemed a great name to call it. I located the blog at /eng because I started a Spanish version of this blog (not very updated) at /es, and an older website is still found on /en.

However, with the addition of other sections on Samafas (Glass Circle, and two more to come shortly) and the merging of the Spanish version into this one, it seemed a good idea to rename it to something that would reflect more of the contents.

So since I am one guy, writing about my experiences through life as it happens, I figured that “Rob’s Rave” more acurately reflected what this blog is all about. That is why you will now find this blog at /robsrave. Please update your RSS feeds to reflect this change.

New Photo Blog – Glass Circle

Well, after wanting to start one for a long time, I have finally done it. There is now a new blog site where I will be adding one photo a day (where I can) using a photo from that day if I have one, or a photo that I like which is recent.

The idea is to have something interesting, but also current, and to force myself to take some more photos and to keep them interesting enough to publish.

This is not going to replace my photo gallery, although that will undergo some serious changes soon too, where I will remove many of the photos and change it to hold only the better and more recent photos. If you have a preference for certain photos to stay, let me know soon.

Have a great day, and be sure to visit Glass Circle regularly.

Joining the Wedding

When we were choosing the place that we were going to eat dinner, the thought of a wedding did not even enter our heads. After all, it was food we were after. But that did not stop this fairy tale adventure from happening to us this night. A sign that not all is so bad in this big old world of ours.

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The “Great Little Bar”

The Choice
Meeting up with some friends in town, we headed off looking for a quick meal. Upon reaching our first destination, a small diner on the corner of two main streets that had just been upgraded from “Greasy Joe’s” to something like “Greasy Joe’s with a facelift”, but with its cheap prices and acceptable food it seemed like a good choice. One of our friends however, was aghast that such a choice had even entered our heads, his reaction indicating that eating at a place like this was somewhat equal to commiting a very slow suicide.

After a number of attempts to encourage unity amongst us concerning this eatery, we finally realised that even though everyone was now saying they would eat there, some would remain very uncomfortable with the choice. So to keep the group happy, we decided to eat at another place. But which place would it be?
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New Blogging System

Copied from my old Mambo system after I had finally gotten around to installing and populating WordPress:

Well, if you have not yet discovered by now, there has not been new content posted here for quite some time. The reason for this is that I am now using a different system for posting, where eventually all of my information (that is scattered over more than three different websites currently) will be combined into one. So if you are looking for the latest news and information, amble your way back to www.samafas.com where you will find the link you need to my new site (or click here).

Eventually, even this site will disappear from view, once all of the information is incorporated. So have a look around and enjoy it all, and then wander over to the new site for the latest news. And have a great day. Rob.

This could have been embarrassing…

Chris and I went for a walk along the Costanera on our day off, and by chance happened to discover Jacar? beach just around the corner. It was busy time and there were hundreds of people crowded into that place. It was also very hot and the water looked great. The only problem was that we were not expecting to be on a beach, so we didn’t have our swimmers with us.

For Chris this was not such a problem and he dived into the water with his shorts and all. My shorts however were huge and heavy and the idea of swimming in them did not appeal so much. So I stripped off to my undies for a swim. After all, the women on this beach were in g-strings and other such delicate webbing, what harm could it be to swim in my racing-striped undies. They even looked like cool swimmers.
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Meeting The Scotts

TREINTA Y TRES: The main purpose of traveling through Uruguay was to visit the Goodmans. A family that I met via email through mutual friends. They lived in Treinta y Tres, the capital city of the province of the same name. This is where I had just arrived, and I had no idea what to expect.

Meeting The Scotts
On arriving in Treinta y Tres, I am met by Tim, a tall lanky lad with a strong reddish beard. At 21 he appears older than he is, and speaks in a Scottish accent. With his pushbike at his side, we both walk the twenty seven or so blocks back to his place.

The house is on the outskirts of town, and in their yard is actually two houses. The other is the new house that Tim is in the process of building. When I enter into the door of the smaller, thatched roof house, I am greeted by great plumes of smoke. Amidst all of this I see two figures who I assume correctly to be Chris and Grace Goodman, Tim’s parents.

Grace is at the gas stove, cooking up some lovely rabbit meat which refuses to stop smoking, while Chris stands at the kitchen bench, preparing other items for dinner. Grace quickly explains to me in her thick Scottish accent that this much smoke is not usual, something I found to be true throughout my stay here.

Two people who describe themselves as plodders, Chris and Grace heard God clearly tell them to move to Uruguay in South America many years ago. After a few probing visits, they then moved here from Scotland eight years ago with their son Tim, and started setting up a new home.

Steep Learning Curves
Never having lived a subsistence lifestyle before, there has been a steep learning curve in virtually every area. How to grow vegetables and trees successfully, how to milk and care for cows, and even how to kill and butcher rabbits. The yard that contains their two house extends for a long way down to the creek, making their land large enough to be called a small farm. Essentially that is what it is.

Wanting to honour God and the rulers of the land, the Goodmans have set about doing everything by the laws of Uruguay. This is something that even the people enforcing these laws have advised against, such is the strength of corruption in the country. Many of these laws do not seem to make sense, and everything takes time to complete. A lot of time.

Never having encountered such long-winded and lengthy delays as every process in Uruguay invokes, the Goodman’s expectations of completing things quickly, such as they could have done in Scotland, were quickly dashed. They came to realise that moving through official channels takes much longer than is reasonable.

These days, as most people who live in South America long enough begin to realise, a much more realistic approach is to select one item to complete each day. If this item is completed then you can begin another. Normally though the delays and circular processes take more than a day to navigate. Sometimes it extends into months or years.

As a result, something as simple as going to the bank or visiting the post-office can be a full day event. Getting approval for house changes takes much much longer, with many hours of time spent standing in line waiting to be told that the person you need to talk to is the one you have just seen.

The New House
Before, during and throughout their time in Uruguay, God has given the Goodmans guidance and direction. Although from a church perspective there has not been great gains or changes during their time here, the Goodmans have been continuing to build contacts and influence many people throughout the town.

There is a sense that their presence here will be the start of something much bigger soon. It is to this end that they continue to work in all areas, including on their house. This house, with a large open area on the upper floor, will become a valuable meeting place when it is finished. Meeting places of this size are not very common in Treinta y Tres.

The new house was a partly started project included with the property the Goodmans bought. After much time in seeking official approval to continue building, they now have the main structure completed. Tim, who has been training in carpentry skills, is in the process of creating the windows, doors and frames for the entire house. The finished products are each looking very good.

While staying here I lived upstairs in the main bedroom, reaching the upper floor by a ladder. About to help Tim with his work, this was my motivation to choose to help out with the interior staircase. Together with Chris we worked on paper and then wood to create the stairs. Time ran out for me before it was finished, but with a little more cutting, we were very close to assembling everything by then.

Sticky Weather
The weather here was reasonably good to us most of the time, although there were a couple of very large and heavy rainstorms that came through the area. One was so loud that it woke me in the early morning, a feat that even my mother finds hard to do.

Never warm, the temperature ranged from cool to very cold. Every day the air was thick with humidity and even dry clothes started to feel sticky. Fortunately, Chris had installed an instant shower from Britain, and I was able to wash the stickiness away. The shower was actually too powerful for the electricity supply and had to be tuned down. Even so, it still provided a lovely warm shower. The best part was that there were not any power cables lying next to the running water.

Getting Around
Transport for the Goodmans is bicycles. They have enough for each of them and one more. Town is not too far away and the ride over mostly flat terrain is easy enough to do. When they first told me they only had bikes, I was expecting motorbikes. Instead, I was able to gain a little fitness as I journeyed in and back from town each day. Chris even has a trailer to draw behind him when he needs to carry larger items.

My Experience
Spending time with the Goodmans, whom I affectionately nicknamed the Scotts, was very refreshing. After traveling for two weeks around Uruguay without speaking English it was also nice to be speaking it again. We shared our experiences of hearing God call us to South America, and told of our visions of what we wanted to see happen here. We chatted and laughed, and talked about much. When I left, I left refreshed.

Having gone to encourage them, I ended up being encouraged myself. They are a great family who are willing to obey God no matter what. The thing I remember most about them is their determination. I now have some new friends, the Scotts.

Argentine Photos

Photos of Argentina have now been added to samafas.com/gallery in their own section.

Photos in this section have been ordered by topic rather than event or place. This includes such areas as

  • Tango,
  • People,
  • Transport,
  • Buildings,
  • Parks,
  • Barrios (suburbs),
  • In Crisis,
  • Buying & Selling,
  • Organisations,
  • and others.

Visit samafas.com/gallery/ar to see more.

The Learning Process

At times you may find that there is something in your life that has to change but it seems like it is taking forever to actually change it. “I still do the same thing”, you exclaim! “When am I ever going to change?”

Good news… you are already changing. It is just that you are in the middle of it and not at the end.

What is the problem…
For many of us, we look to the end result to determine if we have changed. This tells us if the fruits of our efforts are worthwhile or not. Sometimes we give up because the same problem we wanted to change is still with us.

The problem here is that we hope that change will be instantaneous. We do not want to go through the long process that brings about lasting change. It may be because we do not recognise the steps in the process by which we can mark our way through it and so we become disheartened and give up. It could also be because it is hard work to change. This becomes too much for us to keep going, so we go back to our old ways. Not because they are better, but because they are easier.

We want to ensure that our attempts at change are successful. To do this we need to know the steps of change. Using these we can then guage our position in the process of change. So what are these steps?

The steps of change
Whenever you break a habit, or change something that you have been doing for a while, there is a process that you will go through. The good news is that the first step in this process is recognising there is a problem. If you have done that then you are already on your way to changing. What follows is each step and a short description of what it involves:

Step 1 – Recognising there is a problem
It can take a long time before you become aware of a problem that many of the people close to you have known about for ages. Sometimes the problem is something that everyone else knows about but you do not. People will sometimes try to help you reach this step by telling you about the problem. Until you are ready to receive this sort of information you will just brush it off as someone intruding on your life. Once aware of the problem however, you can start to do something about it.

Step 2 – Recognising the need for change
It is one thing to recognise a problem and quite another to realise there is a need to change it. This is the launching point for all change processes. The move from recognising the problem to realising there is a need to change it is made within a short time for most people.

Step 3 – Determining what will replace it
Since the problem is something that you may have had for a while it is now ingrained in you as a habit. Habits are hard to break but not impossible. The most important part of changing a habit is determining what will replace it. Habits are not eliminated, they are changed. You cannot eliminate habitually watching television all night. You must replace it with reading, going out or some other activity. The same with all of our habits. Choose something that you want to do, say, or think that will replace your current action, words or thoughts. This prepares you for the next step.

Step 4 – Recognise your problem after the act
Now that you know about your problem and have been thinking about it, you will start to recognise situations when it occurs. The only problem here is that you only recognise it after it has happened. Of course this is the first part of being able to change. Looking at the situation that has just occurred and identifying the best way to replace it in that particular situation helps prevent the same situation occurring again.

Step 5 – Recognising the problem during the act
Having really started to work on the problem you will start to recognise the problem behaviour during the middle of doing it. This is an advance over the previous step and indicates that you are making significant steps toward change.

Step 6 – Recognising the problem just before the act
At this step the problem is almost eliminated although since the behaviour is still there it does not really feel like it. Recognising the problem behaviour just afterwards may not leave room for change just yet but it is solid evidence of how far you have come in changing the behaviour.

Step 7 – Recognising the problem before it happens
This is the moment of seeing change. After living with an awareness of the problem for so long it finally comes to this. By recognising the problem before it happens you can now stop yourself from engaging in the unwanted behaviour. Since you have stopped yourself beforehand all you need to do now is replace it with the desired behaviour.

Step 8 – Building better habits
Now that the problem behaviour has been replaced a few times it will become easier and easier to continue replacing it. Over time it becomes second nature to respond with your preferred behaviour. In doing this the new behaviour becomes cemented into your life as a permanent habit.

Step 9 – Change completed
With your old habit replaced by the new one your change is now complete. Any situation where the old habit would have occured you now see the new habit occurring. The change becomes obvious and you feel better for knowing it has happened. There were some tough times throughout this period of change but now you are through it. The change has been completed.

As you can see, there are quite a number of steps involved in changing something. The time that it takes to move through these steps varies from person to person and from habit to habit. The one thing that we can be sure of though is that we all move through these steps no matter how fast or how slow.

By being aware of these steps, the process of change becomes more rewarding. When you recognise you are doing something in the middle of doing it, you realise that you have already progressed to step 5 even though the undesired behaviour is still there. You are changing, and you now know it too.

That is the steps of change.


NB: I do not hold claim to the originality of this information as it is something that I have gleaned from reading a number of works. It is highly likely that someone else has explained it like this before. I have put this here because so many people seem to get upset with themselves even though they are well advanced in their change process and I wanted them to know that although they have not “arrived”, they are well on the way.